Frequently Asked Questions

Of course there are no guarantees, but research suggests that couples therapy can have significant positive effects on a relationship.

The reality is that couples therapy is most effective when both partners are fully committed to looking at their individual contributions to the relationship dynamics, even when things get a little messy and uncomfortable.

For couples therapy to be helpful, it's essential for both of you to be open to feedback, ready to challenge old patterns, and dedicated to working towards positive changes.

Throughout our work together, we will talk about your specific goals, and often check in about how therapy is going.

Over time, you'll notice the insights and skills we explore in therapy becoming integrated into your daily life, shaping how you think, feel, and relate to one another.

The therapy process is designed to provide you with lasting tools, and healthier patterns of communication, connection, and conflict resolution. A great bonus is that you will be learning tools that you can use in all of your other relationships too.

The truth is, the length of therapy varies for each couple.

While some couples may find that six months of therapy is enough, I do work with some couples for many years.

As we work together, we will continually assess your progress and goals, ensuring that we are on track to achieve the positive changes you want.

If you’ve spent time on my website, you’ve probably noticed I’m a big fan of research-based methods.

With couples therapy, I integrate evidence-based approaches and techniques to guide our work.

This means that the strategies I bring to our sessions have a strong foundation in scientific research and have proven effective in creating healthier relationships.

Over the years, some words clients have used to describe me are: warm, empathetic, engaged, honest and direct.

Of course, everyone’s experience is different, and if we’re not a good fit I’m happy to point you in the direction of someone else who might be!

I also offer complimentary 15-minute calls before booking your first session so that we can have an initial “meet and greet” before diving in.

Yes! While I specialize in working with neurodiverse couples, I also work with neurotypical couples at all stages of relationships.

Short answer…yes! Maintaining neutrality is a foundational principle of my work as a couples therapist, and couples often comment on this as one of the things that they appreciated most about working with me.

However, remaining neutral does NOT mean I’m indifferent to or detached from the work we are engaged in together.

I’m not one to sit on the sidelines (after all, that’s not what you’re paying me for!), and I’lll be honest with you if I see one of you behaving in a way that is harmful to the relationship.

On the other hand, I’ll also be quick to point out when I see you doing or saying something that’s particularly helpful and relational.

Neutrality to me means avoiding blame while still providing a helpful outside perspective.

Like many therapists, I was reluctant at first to work entirely online. I worried that my clients and I would miss the in-person dynamics from being in a room together.

But over time, I’ve found that working online is actually as good or even better as working in-person.

Since couples therapy is largely about your interactions with each other, working online still allows me to observe and intervene, while maintaining the structure and pace of sessions.

It also gives us enormous flexibility, so couples can meet with me from home, vacation or work.

I can also now work with anyone in California, providing greater access to therapy services for more couples.

Unfortunately, I do not bill medical insurance companies.

However, if you are able to get out-of-network insurance benefits for couples therapy, I can provide you with a monthly Superbill statement indicating all sessions and fees paid.

You can submit this to your insurance company, and your insurance reimbursement will be sent directly to you.